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You'll Never Believe What Happened to Lacey

You'll Never Believe What Happened to Lacey

Crazy Stories about Racism

eBook - 2021
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Writer and performer on Late Night with Seth Meyers Amber Ruffin writes with her sister Lacey Lamar with humor and heart to share absurd anecdotes about everyday experiences of racism.
Now a writer and performer on Late Night with Seth Meyers and host of The Amber Ruffin Show, Amber Ruffin lives in New York, where she is no one's First Black Friend and everyone is, as she puts it, "stark raving normal." But Amber's sister Lacey? She's still living in their home state of Nebraska, and trust us, you'll never believe what happened to Lacey.

From racist donut shops to strangers putting their whole hand in her hair, from being mistaken for a prostitute to being mistaken for Harriet Tubman, Lacey is a lightning rod for hilariously ridiculous yet all-too-real anecdotes. She's the perfect mix of polite, beautiful, petite, and Black that apparently makes people think "I can say whatever I want to this woman." And now, Amber and Lacey share these entertainingly horrifying stories through their laugh-out-loud sisterly banter. Painfully relatable or shockingly eye-opening (depending on how often you have personally been followed by security at department stores), this book tackles modern-day racism with the perfect balance of levity and gravity.
Publisher: Grand Central Publishing


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Apr 16, 2021

Read this! It will make you laugh and make you cry about how far we still have to go in this country and in Omaha. This is a learning opportunity but so so so fun!

RCL_Jenna Apr 06, 2021

Y’all. This book. Read it. It will make you laugh, it will make you uncomfortable, and it will teach you a thing or two about casual (and very not casual) racism. I hear that the audiobook is good, it being read by Amber and Lacey themselves, but get the book for the pictures alone. Spoiler, Lacey does NOT look like Harriet Tubman.

Mar 29, 2021

This very quick read will leave you laughing and crying at the same time. When describing some of the things that were said to Lacey, I heard my father's voice saying (over and over), "Before you open your mouth, engage your brain and count to 10". Although the stories are set in Omaha, they could be in any U.S. location. The photographs in the book provide added poignancy to the stories.

Mar 21, 2021

Having waited for months for this book I started reading it the minute I got it so I could get it back into circulation. I am aware of racism, am anti-racist and I was horrified at how White people treat Black people but especially here in Omaha. I am so glad these two can laugh at some of this and put it down as stupidity but we White people have got to start calling this out. This would not be so accepted if other White people did not idly stand by and listen and condone things being said and actions being taken. Thank you to Amber and Lacy for writing this book.

Mar 15, 2021

Stories are simultaneously heartbreaking and hilarious. Everyone should read this, but especially white people who otherwise "don't know what they don't know" about how pervasive, draining and exhausting everyday racism is to both its victims and often-unknowing perpetrators. To me it's a bit disconcerting to try to keep tabs on who is doing the talking, whether it's Amber or Lacey. Amber is a talented New York comedy writer and performer who thankfully decided to give us a glimpse of her hometown and her sister Lacey's current world. Lacey, God bless her, just keeps going to work everyday in Omaha despite knowing a tsunami of ridiculous comments will be always headed her way.

Mar 12, 2021

Kathy Murphy red. Sutra 3/12

Feb 28, 2021

First, hats off to Amber and Lacey’s parents for raising these amazing ladies. In Omaha no less!
This is a MUST read for white folk, especially if you think you’re woke. You’ll learn a lot about racism that never occurred to you before. There are many “oh she/he didn’t” moments, along with “you can’t say that”, but also cringe and belly laugh moments. Well written and not preachy. Amber can tell a joke as you have noticed on Seth Meyers. Now you can get a steady diet of her humor on Peacock’s “The Amber Ruffin Show”. Laugh along and learn something.

OPL_MichelleC Feb 26, 2021

You’ll Never Believe What Happened to Lacey: Crazy Stories About Racism by Amber Ruffin and Lacey Lamar. This sister author duo grew up right here in Omaha. While Lacey still lives and works in the state, Amber is in New York as a writer on Late Night with Seth Meyers and now heads her own late night show, The Amber Ruffin Show, which streams on Peacock. A must watch if you haven’t already.

Described as “horrifyingly entertaining” and “hilariously horrifying,” Ruffin and Lamar share personal stories about their experiences with colleagues, bosses, mall security, the dreaded HR Department, strangers, and police. First off, they are Black women, which is why unfortunately some people think that, among other things, they can say or do whatever they want around them. Secondly, these stories are wild and feel unbelievable in the way that we “Nebraska Nice” folks don’t want to believe this stuff happens. But it’s true, this all happened! A majority of these stories are set right here in Omaha. It’s possible you may even know a person in a story!

I want you to read this because it will absolutely make you think and leave an impact. It is a great book club pick because everyone will likely be impacted differently and there’s so much to unpack. There is a lot of understanding to be gained and an opportunity to be seen.

You’ll Never Believe What Happened to Lacey is timely and timeless and each chapter is hilarious, insightful, aggravating, and comforting in equal measure. I seriously cannot recommend this enough. Please read it! And get your friends to read it, too!

Like I mentioned, there’s a lot to break down, so reserve the book club bag and gather some folks to discuss! It’s also available in print, ebook, and downloadable audiobook! The sisters read the audiobook and it’s so adorable. For the Reading Challenge, it’s set in Nebraska, and you definitely want to meet these admirable sister authors!

ArapahoeChristineS Feb 22, 2021

This thought provoking book blew me away! Lacey is a sweet, and endlessly patient, professional who is often the only person of color on staff in her hometown, Nebraska. Her stories, as mostly told by Amber, vary from cringe-worthy, to making me nauseous; all were shocking, horrifying, sad, and maddening, and delivered in a laugh out loud way due to great writing. As painful as these encounters are, Lacey and Amber are a firm support system to each other, finding the absurdity in the pain and turning it into laughter. The audio-book version is amazing, I can't recommend it highly enough even if you are not an audiobook fan. However, they do talk about photos that are in the visual books that I would love to see. My advise, get both!

Feb 05, 2021

2020; Grand Central Publishing

I would recommend this book to white people that ask, "Racism isn't so bad nowadays, right?". I am a woman of colour in Canada, and so I cannot attest to what it is really like living in America as a black person. Reading this book, I would say some part of America are bad, and some other parts are worse. I have experience (to a lesser extent) some of what Lacey has, but I would better relate to her sister, Amber. I didn't have any illusions that racism is prevalent today, but reading Lacey's stories just enforces how obvious it is. This book brought up a lot of emotions in me. I felt for Lacey, having to endure the same old shitty attitude and treatment. I felt angry, sad and a bit broken. When I read history or historical fiction, I am drawn to slavery, civil rights, holocaust, British Raj in India, genocide of indigenous groups whether North America or Australia. I feel like I want to absorb all the information I can from history so I don't repeat it, and share with others so that they don't become neutral. Neutral is what enables all of this to continue. You have to become an ally for change. If nothing else, I found this book awakening my thoughts and starting dialogues with others. I am always wanting to learn to be better and help more, so this is an invitation to educate me by pointing me in the direction of books that will make me a better person in society.

***I received a complimentary copy of this hardcoverfrom the publisher. Opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own.***

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