Save the Date

Save the Date

The Occasional Mortifications of A Serial Wedding Guest

Book - 2014
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This is an insightful examination of the search for love and the meaning of marriage in a time of anxiety, independence, and indecision. Weddings. They are fun, festive, and joyful, and at a time when people marry later in life, and sometimes not at all, they offer endless opportunities to reexamine love and what we want for ourselves, regardless of whether or not our aim is a walk down the aisle. In this book the author charts the course of her own perennial wedding guesthood, from the ceremony of distant family members when she was eight to the recent nuptials of a new boyfriend's friends. There is the first trip home for a childhood pal's big day, in which she learns that her first love has eloped to Hawaii. There is the destination wedding attended with little baggage beyond a suitcase of strappy sandals and summery party dresses. Regrettably, there is a series of celebrations that mean the end to a valued friendship. There is also the wedding that offers all the promise of new love. Wedding experiences come in as varied an assortment as the gowns at any bridal shop, and the author turns a keen eye to each, delivering a heartfelt exploration of contemporary relationships. Funny, honest, and affecting, this is a fresh and spirited look at the many ways in which we connect to one another.
Publisher: New York, New York : Riverhead Books, a member of Penguin Group (USA), 2014
ISBN: 9781594631986
Branch Call Number: 392.5 D69S 2014
Characteristics: 321 pages ; 22 cm


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Anyone who spend a good part of their late 20's and early 30's attending wedding after wedding will appreciate these tales of wedding mayhem.

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Nov 26, 2017

The author came across as a shallow self centered drunk....drinking in the pre parties, the wedding, the after parties with more alcohol and little purpose. But the stories of the various weddings she attended were entertaining and I found myself reading each chapter. In spite of her inebriation, she actually shared some very on point observations about weddings, which are one of the most odd social phenomena humans observe- especially the big expensive ones.

ArapahoeKati Jun 28, 2017

I feel like I'm the target demographic for this: I'm single and I go to lots of my friends' weddings. But this book was not even worth finishing. It wasn't funny. It wasn't informative. Skip this.

Jan 28, 2015

A little slow in the beginning, but ended up being a good read.

rowanquincy Dec 08, 2014

A very trivial and uninteresting book. I gave up about 30 pages in. It just wasn't worth my time. I can't think of anyone I would recommend this to.

Aug 29, 2014

Was really looking forward to this book and was extremely disappointed. Had hoped for a more in-depth look at weddings and marriage from a sociological standpoint, but the book is more about what weddings the author went to because oh my gosh she has so many friends, and what she wore to them. Very dull, to say the least. It was not worth finishing the read; I lost all interest by the fifth chapter.

ksoles Aug 26, 2014

2.5 Stars...

In "Village Voice" writer Jennifer Doll's debut memoir, she chronicles her feelings about the 20+ weddings she has attended over the years. Those who share Doll's obsession with nuptial details may find a kindred spirit in the author but those hoping to read original insights and profound thoughts on the subject will remain unfulfilled at the end.

Doll certainly shows attentiveness in describing clothing, decorations and environments and she engagingly tells of her parents' courtship and marriage. In fact, the author's mother becomes the most lively, vivid and sympathetic character in the book. Additionally, "Save The Date" raises persistent, difficult questions about how to pick the "right" person to marry and how to build a successful marriage after the excitement of the wedding day wanes. She covers the anxieties of a single person who finds all her friends suddenly engaged and, at least initially, displays a lighthearted charm.

Unfortunately, though, Doll's book reads like a bewildering mass of anecdotes, incidents and musings blurred together to leave little lasting effect. Her advice proves all too predictable and her descriptions rely heavily on lists and clichés. She skims the surface of her own emotions and boils down weddings to childhood fantasies, a love of parties and a sense of missing out despite her purported satisfaction with single life. Any charisma or grace exhibited at the beginning of the memoir fades as Doll laughs off her volatile drunken behaviour including, at rock-bottom, informing the reader of the exact cost of the shoes she flung down the street.


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